Reframe The Negative Spiral

Reframe The Negative Spiral

When you are in it, you question your sanity daily. After you leave, you torture yourself with lingering self-blame and shame. The negative spiraling and ruminative thoughts with endless self-doubt become a habitual way of thinking. After a toxic relationship with an...

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The Losses and The Grief

The Losses and The Grief

Acknowledging the grief, the losses, and the whole truth of the devastation after a toxic entanglement with an abusive narcissist is a critical piece to realigning the inner compass that is there to guide and protect. Teasing apart the “shoulds”, the imagined futures,...

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The Symptoms of Trauma After the Abuse

The Symptoms of Trauma After the Abuse

Imagine the impact of predatory unpredictability, manipulation, and control on the mind and the body of the victim. Every word and action of the victim is twisted, contorted and turned on its head to torture and terrorize the victim. Punishment waits around every...

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Why Do I Still Dream About Him?

Why Do I Still Dream About Him?

Many, many of the survivors in our community have asked me questions about the nightmares, the dreams, the visions that persist. These are the nightmares, visions, and dreams that continue despite the passage of time and despite the distance that has been created with...

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