by Lisa | Apr 28, 2020 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns
When you are in it, you question your sanity daily. After you leave, you torture yourself with lingering self-blame and shame. The negative spiraling and ruminative thoughts with endless self-doubt become a habitual way of thinking. After a toxic relationship with an...
by Lisa | Mar 25, 2020 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns
Consider that an abusive narcissist thrives on power and control over others to serve his/her needs and wants. The distorted belief system of the abusive narcissist rationalizes and justifies manipulation, lacks individual accountability, lacks personal...
by Lisa | Sep 9, 2019 | Habits and Patterns, New Intentions
The impact of chronic daily stressors and triggers that occur over the duration of the relationship with an abusive narcissist coupled with the trauma may make the prospect of stepping into new relationships seem insurmountable. It could feel like embarking on an...
by Lisa | Aug 27, 2019 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns
How do I get a narcissistic abuser to take responsibility for what he/she has done and admit wrongdoing? Despite all the wishing, hoping, and magical thinking, understanding that we cannot control the actions, thoughts, and choices of others is critical to healing and...
by Lisa | May 8, 2019 | Habits and Patterns, New Intentions
Victims of narcissistic abuse suffer from the effects of trauma. When the body, mind, and spirit are exposed repeatedly to unpredictability, control, manipulation, and abuse the body and mind will continue to be hypervigilant with quills raised ready for battle. Is...
by Lisa | Jan 22, 2019 | Being Honest, Habits and Patterns
Is it possible to completely trust another person again? Can you learn to trust yourself and your decisions? How do you recognize what is true and real? How do you ensure that you do not become entangled and ensnared with a narcissistic abuser again without holding...