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Reframe The Negative Spiral

by Lisa | Apr 28, 2020 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns

When you are in it, you question your sanity daily. After you leave, you torture yourself with lingering self-blame and shame. The negative spiraling and ruminative thoughts with endless self-doubt become a habitual way of thinking. After a toxic relationship with an...

Social Isolation and The Narcissistic Abuser

by Lisa | Mar 25, 2020 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns

Consider that an abusive narcissist thrives on power and control over others to serve his/her needs and wants. The distorted belief system of the abusive narcissist rationalizes and justifies manipulation, lacks individual accountability, lacks personal...

New Relationships After the Trauma. Slowly Rebuilding.

by Lisa | Sep 9, 2019 | Habits and Patterns, New Intentions

The impact of chronic daily stressors and triggers that occur over the duration of the relationship with an abusive narcissist coupled with the trauma may make the prospect of stepping into new relationships seem insurmountable. It could feel like embarking on an...

How Do You Get The Narcissistic Abuser to Take Responsibility or Admit Wrongdoing?

by Lisa | Aug 27, 2019 | Getting Real, Habits and Patterns

How do I get a narcissistic abuser to take responsibility for what he/she has done and admit wrongdoing? Despite all the wishing, hoping, and magical thinking, understanding that we cannot control the actions, thoughts, and choices of others is critical to healing and...

Healthy Vigilance vs. Becoming Paranoid

by Lisa | May 8, 2019 | Habits and Patterns, New Intentions

Victims of narcissistic abuse suffer from the effects of trauma. When the body, mind, and spirit are exposed repeatedly to unpredictability, control, manipulation, and abuse the body and mind will continue to be hypervigilant with quills raised ready for battle. Is...

Is it possible to completely trust another person again?

by Lisa | Jan 22, 2019 | Being Honest, Habits and Patterns

Is it possible to completely trust another person again? Can you learn to trust yourself and your decisions? How do you recognize what is true and real? How do you ensure that you do not become entangled and ensnared with a narcissistic abuser again without holding...

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Meet Lisa J. Haskins

As a woman who has experienced this crazy-making, I am here to tell you that you can break free from the toxic thoughts, beliefs, and chronic anxiety that prevent you from trusting yourself and your decisions again.

I provide consulting, mentoring through my course, Recover and Rediscover, and research-based tips, tools, and strategies to women who are seeking a path to empowerment, wellness, and personal growth after a toxic relationship with an abusive narcissist.