by Lisa | Apr 11, 2020 | Grief, New Intentions, toxic relationship
It is important to acknowledge the losses. It is important to let the feelings and emotions be present and to bring some gentle acceptance. We can allow the grief to be present without pushing the emotions down, punishing ourselves, or turning away. For myself there...
by Lisa | Feb 10, 2019 | toxic relationship
Preparing to face an ex-partner who is a narcissistic abuser can be a very triggering event. The stress, unrelenting worry, and very real anxiety that are stirred up prior to these meetings can be as difficult as the event itself. If you are co-parenting with an...
by Lisa | Dec 13, 2018 | Habits and Patterns, toxic relationship
The attempts by the toxic narcissist to seep back into our lives during the holidays can be extremely difficult and requires willpower and conscious choices for ourselves. When we look back, we are astounded by the glaring red flags that were missed, dismissed, and...
by Lisa | Sep 5, 2018 | toxic relationship
If you are in an intimate relationship with a narcissist, the following actions on behalf of the “narcissist” will eventually appear. These red flags scream “I am a narcissist.” Name calling Lies, lies, and more lies Public humiliation and then blame shifting labeled...
by Lisa | Jun 17, 2018 | Habits and Patterns, toxic relationship
Please consider that the end result, whether or not the victim leaves or is discarded by the abusive narcissist, yields the same result. The relationship and bonding with an abusive narcissist is never love. This is difficult to face, but naming it is critical to the...
by Lisa | Apr 21, 2018 | Getting Real, toxic relationship
Many times, narcissistic abusers, use a psychological defense mechanism called projection. Projection is defined as a defensive triggered response that can be activated when an intolerable characteristic that lies beneath the line of consciousness of an individual...