Social Isolation and The Narcissistic Abuser
Consider that an abusive narcissist thrives on power and control over others to serve his/her needs and wants. The distorted belief system of the abusive narcissist rationalizes and justifies manipulation, lacks individual accountability, lacks personal...
The Losses and The Grief
Acknowledging the grief, the losses, and the whole truth of the devastation after a toxic entanglement with an abusive narcissist is a critical piece to realigning the inner compass that is there to guide and protect. Teasing apart the “shoulds”, the imagined futures,...
The Symptoms of Trauma After the Abuse
Imagine the impact of predatory unpredictability, manipulation, and control on the mind and the body of the victim. Every word and action of the victim is twisted, contorted and turned on its head to torture and terrorize the victim. Punishment waits around every...
It’s Okay to Not Feel Like It is the Most Wonderful Time of the Year
You may not be feeling like this is the most wonderful time of the year right now. Guess what? That is okay. There are a whole host of expectations this time of year. All the rituals surrounding this time of year can leave us feeling drained, discouraged, and keep us...
Why Do I Still Dream About Him?
Many, many of the survivors in our community have asked me questions about the nightmares, the dreams, the visions that persist. These are the nightmares, visions, and dreams that continue despite the passage of time and despite the distance that has been created with...
The Illusion, Denial, and Magical Thinking
You cannot plan, prepare, or manage your way out of box with someone who is manipulative, controlling, self-centered, and abusive. The potential threat of an outburst will occur. Victims know this. These outbursts and horrible treatment of others (which of course...
Lisa Haskins is an outstanding teacher and guide. Having survived a toxic relationship, she had the courage and inner strength to open to her own pain and suffering and transform it into wisdom and compassion.
She teaches from… (read more)
Hugh Byrne, PhD
Senior teacher, Insight Meditation Community of Washington
Cofounder, Mindfulness Training Institute of Washington
Author, The Here And Now Habit
Lisa is a gifted teacher and healer who transforms the lives of women who are recovering from a toxic relationship. As a psychotherapist, I often meet new clients who have been abandoned by a narcissistic ex or who have had no choice but to leave one. As I sit with them and hear their harrowing stories, I know they will heal best if they can connect with someone who has been right where they are… (read more)

